Human needs what are they and why do we need them? I was recently on Toney Robbins website and read his post about, what he considered to be peoples six driving needs. The things which we make most of our decisions on.
The 6 human needs
1. Certainty: Assurance that you can avoid pain and gain pleasure.
2. Uncertainty/Variety: The need for the unknown, change, and new stimuli.
3. Significance: Feeling unique, important, special, or needed.
4. Connection/Love: A strong feeling of closeness, or union with someone or something.
5. Growth: An expansion of capacity, capability or understanding.
6. Contribution: A sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others. Here’s a link to Toney’s web site were I found this information.
My experience with these basic needs and how they related to starting my own business.
In my life certainty has been a big need. Especially when it came to starting something new. The overwhelming feeling of not being able to be certain about the outcome was difficult to deal with. The great thing about having mentors is, they have already experienced all of these issues. They can help you overcome them because they have already done it. So, how did I deal with certainty? I backed my inevitable success off of the fact that what they did caused them to succeed. Therefore success for me was just a matter of time, my willingness to change, and my determination to put in the work.
“The great thing about having mentors is, they have already experienced all of these issues.”
Here’s the paradox, the need for uncertainty. The great thing about getting certainty dealt with is you can step in to uncertainty with excitement rather than fear. I saw the repeated success of others so I could embrace this uncertainty with creativity knowing that my ultimate success was going to happen.
“The great thing getting certainty dealt with is you can step into uncertainty with excitement rather than fear.”
Feeling significance, this is what’s so great about having an online community there with you to help and encourage you every step of the way. Not just to help you, but that you also get to help others and
helping others keeps me more motivated to keep moving towards my goals and dreams. When you make others feel significant you, yourself will feel significant.
“When you make others feel significant you, yourself will feel significant.”
What I found interesting was when I started to feel significance with what I was doing in life, I started to feel more connection/love in other relationships as well. It was kind of like when I started to gain a sense of significance, I didn’t feel depressed or just mentally drained. After time I noticed I gained more patience to not just react and blow up on my family just because I was in some kind of bad mood. We can begin to develop knee jerking reactions towards our spouse or children that can be negative. It’s easier to encourage someone you may not personally know because you don’t have those negative associations with them. In doing so its like your practicing on other’s that will then begin to affect other areas of your life. Bringing more connection/love.
“I had the patience to not react and blow up on my family just because I was in some kind of bad mood.”
We’ve all heard the saying “If you’re not growing you’re dying.” Growth is so important in life, I know that if I’m not doing something to cause growth in some way I start to get depressed. Life is more than sleep, eat, work, repeat. We have to be doing something that challenges us, makes us feel good, and keeps life interesting.
Starting a business, picking up a hobby, or just changing up the routine a bit can help in so many ways!
“Life is more than sleep, eat, work, repeat.”
Contribution really falls in line with significance. When your contributing you really have a sense of self-worth and value. Sometimes its easy to just want to receive from others and we get upset if that doesn’t always happen. I’ve found that the more you contribute the more contribution you will receive from others. It’s most defiantly a two way street.
“When your contributing you really have a sense of self-worth and value.”
Starting a business is something that requires change in order to be possible, and Toney Robbins is one of the top leader’s in the area of changing peoples lives. He has many years of data and experience to deliver sound principles that we can follow to start the change in our own lives. This has been my experience in getting to know who I am, by turning these principles into questions to ask myself. Then challenging myself to make the changes to create the life I want instead of a life that’s just happening to me. I now ask you to turn these principles into questions, push outside your comfort-zone and see what you can do to change your life!
I’ll see you on the other side. Kody